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Again, Substack isn't letting me "reply"—I've already emailed support about this—but I'll post this as a new comment anyway, since it actually responds to multiple comments and emails I've received.

1. I should have said upfront that how to handle this situation is quite obviously Crystal Clanton's decision, and she should do what she feels is best for her.

I think I wanted to offer advice because (a) I'm often asked for crisis-management advice by friends, maybe because I've covered a lot of these types of controversies, cancellations, and scandals over the years; (b) I feel empathy for her, given my own past; and (c) it seemed like a good entry point into a story that I obviously have to cover.

But it goes without saying that these are her calls to make.

2. I totally understand and appreciate the "don't apologize" perspective. And I acknowledge that in many cases—and perhaps this case too—it's the wrong response.

My longtime readers know that I'm strongly committed to free speech and rational discourse, and I have deep faith in the power of persuasion and good-faith argument. This is why I'm so troubled by incidents like shoutdowns on university campuses, which are the opposite of all positive engagement.

I also generally believe that in between the ideological extremes, there's a surprisingly large number of moderates who are persuadable on a whole host of issues. And I focus on those people in public debates, as well as my own writing.

But I acknowledge that in 2024, maybe (1) my faith in the ability to bridge divides and persuade people is naive and misplaced, and (2) the moderate middle is vanishingly small (if not quite the 1% referred to by Dave F, maybe only marginally larger).

Time will tell, I guess.

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Posting on behalf of a reader who emailed me (with their consent):

"Love your writing and podcast episodes. Appreciate you and the work you produce. I believe it is consistently an important perspective.

I personally go back and forth about your letter to Crystal, focusing on the part that assumes that she did NOT write those texts. Maintaining that assumption here, in short, it appears your letter, in my view and respectfully, places a lot of the effort at correcting this wrong on the victim, i.e., Crystal. I do not love this.

Were I similarly situated, working to build the reputation and career that Crystal seems to be building, I do imagine that I would want to strongly correct the record and denounce such horrible expressions. But I am not in her shoes, and I have not had to deal with the very public and stress inducing situation she currently finds herself in. So, I am tremendously reticent to say what is 'correct' or 'normal' in terms of how she should respond. The idea that Crystal MUST do something or behave a certain way is something I would caution any third party observer/commentator/advisor against when counseling a victim.

I spent an all too brief time representing human-trafficking victims in the San Francisco Bay Area, and the last thing any of them needed was any sort of judgment or opinion about what they NEEDED to do. The best and only approach, in my opinion, about counseling victims is first to return the power and decision making authority to them. I believe strongly in the approach being what do THEY want to do, and how can we as counselors advise them on the avenues available to best achieve their desired outcome or path. THE DECISION IS THEIRS.

Obviously, the degree of the wrong against Crystal is perhaps categorically different from the wrong committed against my former clients, but I believe the most appropriate approach to working with and FOR victims remains applicable and true."

I responded to this reader as follows:

"I don't know that I disagree with your main point; I acknowledge that the choice of how to proceed is Crystal's.

As someone who often gets asked for crisis-management advice, I thought it would be helpful to outline what I would do if consulted. And maybe I was 'projecting' a bit, empathetically trying to imagine myself in her shoes.

But I acknowledge that I haven't been consulted, and she should do as she pleases (and she will have a great career regardless of what she does, as long as she sticks to conservative circles)."

And this reader replied:

"Certainly, I do appreciate your assumption made [for purposes of this post] that had Crystal asked you for advice, this is an example of what you would advise. However, insofar as that advice may perpetuate the all too oft-taken approach that a victim should be told what to do, I am cautious.

As shortly as I can put it, assuming Crystal did not send those texts, the only words of advice I would have are as follows: 'I work for you and am here to help you achieve your desired outcome. The decision is and will always be yours. What would you like to do?'"

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